I read a great post by money saving mom the other day on how she became discontent when shopping for new boots. This is an area I think we all struggle with, I know I do. It is something that I need to work on.
After reading this post, I decided to talk about an area I have been struggling with, discontentment after reading blogs. I have found myself really struggling with this. I have been reading blogs and thinking how much better I should be doing. I should be saving more money. I should be more organized. I should be cooking healthier. I found myself feeling overwhelmed with not doing and being more like what I was reading. I had to step back and remind myself that we only see a glimpse of each other in the blog world.
We all have different talents and areas we excel at. I may like to cook, but did you know that I do not like to iron or clean bathrooms? There are many chores that I put off because I would rather be cooking or baking. Just because a person can be frugal or organized does not mean they have the rest of their life all together.
I have found myself wishing that I could find deals shopping like so many blogs talk about. Well, I can’t. I can read about how cheap others peoples grocery budgets are, but it won’t work for me. Yes, I try to keep my budget down, and yes, I like to think frugally, but I can only do so much.
I live in the country. I don’t have a Walgreens or grocery store down the street. I only shop once a week, if that. I have four Walmart supercenters within 25 minutes of me, but I have few other grocery stores. I can’t find the deals that some of you can.
The other problem I have is, I like to cook. I enjoy it and can spend a little extra on my grocery budget, so I do. Also, my husband does not want to eat beans and rice three times a week. He likes meat every night for dinner. So, I almost always include meat in the meal. However, we rarely eat out, which saves us a lot of money.
There are advantages to living in the country. We don’t have a restaurant down the street to tempt us. I have found what works for us. I can still enjoy reading about frugal meals and shopping. I can still learn from other bloggers. I do like to use coupons, but I’m not going to be quite as good at it as some bloggers.
I have also read several blogs about being organized. I tend to be very organized with my time, but I need to work on organizing my stuff. I do need to work at it, but I probably will never have a perfectly organized house. I am learning that many people that have organized stuff do not organize their time well. We can all improve somewhere; again we are only getting a glimpse of things in each other’s lives.
What about homeschooling? It is so easy for me to read a blog about homeschooling and think I am failing at homeschooling. I am not doing unit studies on Ancient Egypt. In fact, I never have. I can read about all the neat things others do, but do you know what, it just won’t work for me at this time in my life.
I need structure. I need programs. I need lesson plans. We do what works for us. I need to realize that I am doing fine. Yes, my kids may not know the ins and outs of Ancient history, but they are learning. I have a husband who is great at science and math. He can explain and turn almost anything into a science or math lesson. We may not be doing what others are doing, but our children are getting a good education.
I like to occasionally post about real life, like I did here and here. When you read my blog you only see a small portion of my life. You see mainly my cooking and recipes, but you do not see the whole picture of this part of my life. I don’t post every meal or dish I prepare. You do not see the disasters I have in the kitchen, and yes, I do have some. You do not see when my day did not go as planned, and we have take and bake pizza or have breakfast for dinner. You do not see my pile of dishes that all too often is sitting in the kitchen sink.
You do not see how dirty my bathroom is or how dusty my house is. You can’t see how dirty my floors are, yes, I hate mopping the floor and do not do it often enough. You can’t see the days I am overwhelmed and do not know how I am going to make it through them. You can’t see all these things (and to be honest I am a little glad that you can’t).
We can’t see the full picture of each others lives. We tend to share the good parts of our lives, the best meals, the best projects, the best shopping trips, etc. We are humans with real human problems. I need to remember this when I read other blogs. I am going to work on enjoying reading blogs without becoming discontented. I want to learn and grow from what I read. I have learned so many tips and ideas from the blog world and I don’t want to give it up. I just need to step back and realize that I am only seeing a small picture of someone’s life.